What if you could think your way lean? Wouldn’t that be amazing? No more struggle to eliminate sugar or drag your butt to the gym at the crack of dawn to sweat yourself thin.
What if I told you that you actually can think your way lean?
I’m sure you’d think I’m crazy, but hear me out.
Every single action you take in your life is the result of a thought.
Every. Single. One.
The action to hit the snooze button and skip yoga class this morning? That started as a thought.
The action to get in your car and go to work? Another thought.
That chocolate cookie you ate in the staff break room earlier this week? Again, a thought preceded that action.
Getting mad at your boo for leaving a huge mess in the kitchen for you to clean up (again!!). Believe it or not, that irritation (maybe rage is a better descriptor?) was preceded by a thought.
What does it have to do with overeating?
The thoughts we all have trigger an emotion-- happy, sad, angry, scared-- which then triggers an action.
If you are an emotional overeater, when you have a negative thought ("I have so much work to do it feels like I'll never get it all done.") it triggers a negative emotion (fear of not meeting expectations at work) which then triggers an action intended to numb that emotion (eat a sweet, chocolaty cookie in the break room even though you told yourself you wouldn't eat anymore sugar because you are serious about losing 40 lbs).
The result of that action is likely
the Action = the Result
Every action leads to result. No matter what.
The result, however, will always be one of two options: the one you want, or the one you don’t.
Action: Eat the cookies in the break room
Result: Weight gain
Action: Walk away from the cookies in the break room
Result: Weight maintenance or loss
Either way, there is a result from your action.
The thing most people don't realize is that they can choose which option they get, and it has nothing to do with willpower.
Every single time you take action you are choosing the result you get-- you are choosing the result you want or the result you don't want.
It works like this.*
Imagine you arrive home from work late on Friday night. Your Boo is not home and your kids are asking for dinner.
Circumstance: Arrive home from work late on Friday night. Kids and I are hungry.
Thought: It’s Friday, we are all tired from a long week-- we deserve pizza tonight.
Action: Order and eat a pizza.
Result: Pants are tighter, not loser.
After eating said pizza, your mind sounds something like this:
Circumstance: Pants are tighter, not looser (the result from the first thought).
Thought: I will never meet my weight loss goals.
Feeling: Disgusted with myself.
Action: Give up on weight loss goals.
Result: Never meet my weight loss goals.
Notice how our result proves the thought true. This is super important to recognize!! This is what psychologists call a self-fulfilling prophecy. It is important because it proves that our results are born directly of our thoughts.
The good news is that this is all under your control, if you chose to learn to manage your mind. You can learn to manage your thoughts so that your thoughts create the results you want.
Let’s look back at that circumstance and, this time, intentionally manage the thought.
Circumstance: I arrive home from work late on Friday night. Kids are hungry.
Thought: It’s Friday, we are all tired from a long week-- we deserve a relaxing evening.
Action: Order take out with plenty of protein, fat, and veggie options to eat on plan, choose a movie, and enjoy with your family.
Result: Lose weight and spend quality, relaxed time with family.
Notice the shift was made only in the “Thought” line, but it completely changed the result.
The exciting part about this is that you get to choose. Do you want the result from your current thought sequence, or a new one that you decide on?
Getting Started with Mind Management
I will be the first to admit that this is easier said than done. I'm not preaching manifestation magic here, but rather becoming conscious about your thoughts and how they effect your life, and then getting really intentional about the results (and thoughts!!) that you get.
If you want to learn more about how to actually start managing your mind, sign up for a free mini session with me and I will get you up and running in about 30 minutes.
Lia Pinelli is a weight loss coach and educator who helps women put an end to emotional overeating and lose weight, permanently.