Hey Mama Boss,
In this post I am going to give you a little peek into what weight loss coaching is all about as well as give you a few tips to get you started on your own.
You don’t have to sign up for weight loss coaching to see the benefits.
You can get started here and now.
Sometimes when I tell people I’m a weight loss coach they think it's all about weight loss.
Imagine that. ;)
But here's the thing.
Not. At. All.
Sure, when I first start out with a client she wants me to tell her exactly what to eat and when to eat it.
She wants a plan.
A food guide.
A shopping list.
An exercise routine.
She wants restrictions and guardrails.
She wants a prescription that will contain her.
Hold her in.
Because she feels out of control.
Her appetite is a *thing* that is bigger than she is.
Is beyond her control.
And she needs someone to tell her how to regain control.
And then she will be thin.
And then she will be happy.
I get that.
She is looking for a light at the end of the tunnel.
An exit off the Highway of Dieting and Self-loathing.
She is simply looking for solutions to her problem.
Because she thinks her problem is her weight.
And what she learns as she proceeds down the off-ramp from the Highway of Dieting and Self-loathing is that it isn't really about her weight.
Her weight isn't the *problem*.
Her weight is just a byproduct.
A symptom of the real problem.
The problem is her relationship with food.
She is eating her feelings.
She eats when she is tired.
When she's bored.
Any negative feeling, really.
She looks to food to solve for those problems.
What she learns, however, through weight loss coaching is that it’s a choice to look to food to solve her problems.
She is making the choice every time.
Even if it doesn't feel like a choice.
And the good news there is, since it's a choice, it is completely within her control.
Even if it doesn't feel like it-- yet.
What is the alternative if she didn't choose food to solve her problem of feeling negative emotions?
The alternative is to simply feel the feeling.
She can choose to feel tired, bored, anxious, overwhelmed, disappointed.
And to not eat.
That sounds pretty terrible, right?
This is where the coaching begins.
I teach her how to feel her feelings, without eating.
I show her that it is totally and completely in her control.
She is choosing it.
And she has the power to un-choose it.
And the process is mind-blowing.
Life-changing on so many levels.
Once a woman learns to feel her negative emotions instead of eat them she can choose to channel that energy into what really matters in her life.
Her life's work.
Her creative passion.
Her larger purpose.
how to get started
The first rule of weight loss: Be Kind
Be kind to yourself.
Once you become aware that you are eating in order to avoid a negative feeling there is a tendency for women like us, women who have high expectations, to beat ourselves up for it.
So the next time you catch yourself eating to avoid or resist a negative feeling, ask yourself these two questions:
Take the time to explore your brain a bit.
Write it down, pen to paper.
Get it out.
What you learn about yourself in the process will not only blow your mind, but will also open you up to ending the battle with your body and your weight once and for all.
These skills take practice, but the journey is soooo incredibly worth it.
Once you stop obsessing about your weight and food, you will be freed up to pursue your true purpose on this planet.
You will be more available for your family and community.
You will be a better role model to the young, impressionable girls in your life.
You will have freed up so much mental space that you were previously using to count calories or carbs, plan meals, or read dieting blogs.
What will you do with all of that newfound time?
Lia Pinelli is a weight loss coach and educator who helps women put an end to emotional overeating and lose weight, permanently.