In my last post we talked all about finding a compelling reason to lose weight. You thought a lot about the reasons you want to lose weight and identified at least one reason that was bigger and stronger than your desire to overeat.
In this post we will look at the second reason why most people fail to lose weight, and what you can do about it.
Reason #2: You haven’t made the decision, to lose weight
You may be thinking "What is she talking about?!?! Of course I've made the decision to lose weight. It's been a goal of mine for ages."
But really, truly deciding to do something big and life changing, and then actually committing to do it is not as easy as you might think.
Making decisions, especially big, audacious decisions, can be terrifying.
What if I decide to do it and then fail?
What will everyone think of me?
Will they laugh at me?
Will they lose confidence in me?
Will they lose respect for me?
These thoughts are terrifying! It is certainly a lot easier to avoid big decision-making in general. If we never make the decision, we never risk public humiliation. So we avoid deciding to take a big career leap, or go back to school, or get married, or divorced, or move, or lose weight. Big decisions impact every facet of our lives. If we are wrong about them or fail at them, we risk public humiliation-- something every human on the planet usually seeks to avoid.
Big decisions impact every facet of our lives.
If we are “wrong” or “fail”,
we risk public humiliation.
Humans intrinsically gravitate towards pleasure, and make even greater effort to avoid pain. That is why, even when we want something really, really badly, we don’t go for it if the pain of getting there is greater in the short term than the pleasure of having it in the future. (Hence why you are still, after all of these years, trying to lose weight.)
So if you really, really want to lose weight you are going to have to make a commitment to circumvent the human tendency to avoid discomfort.
3 critical steps for weight loss
You know you want to lose weight, and you know that it is going to be hard and uncomfortable. You know that it is human nature to avoid hard, uncomfortable things so that is why you've failed every time you've tried to lose weight before.
I have a three step formula to help you overcome these barriers to weight loss.
Step 1: Remember that you can do hard things.
Write down 10 hard things, really hard things, you've done in your life. Think all the way back to childhood if you'd like.
Read this list over anytime you are thinking you can't do it.
(And if you are having that thought, by the way, that you can't do it, be sure to read Part 3 of 3 of this series to learn how to manage thoughts like that as that is the number one reason you won't lose weight.)
Step 2: Decide on purpose.
Think of this decision as a promise to yourself. Decide that you are going to lose weight, that you are going to stop eating all flour and sugar, and that you are going to be successful.
Step 3: Commit to doing whatever it takes to meet that promise to yourself.
You will find there is a great deal of power in that commitment. When you start making decisions and commiting to them you will see a huge boost in your confidence level. You'll be able to trust yourself to follow through successfully on your goals.
Take the time to think through what is the big decision that you are willing to make. Is it to lose 30 lbs? To stop eating flour and sugar?
Decide on purpose and write it down. Seriously. Write it down right now.
Then, commit to do whatever it takes to make that decision deliver the results you are after.
Keep me posted on your progress in the comments below or sign up for a free mini session to learn how you can take this work to the next level.
Lia Pinelli is a weight loss coach and educator who helps women put an end to emotional overeating and lose weight, permanently.