You read all about No Sugar No Flour in my last post and you gave it a shot.
And... it was easier than you thought!
Maybe you even dropped a couple pounds!
It went great!
For a few days… and then you (check all that apply)...
All of these “reasons” you are struggling, despite your unwavering desire to lose weight, are not really reasons at all.
They are thoughts. Just thoughts. Simple as that.
Lucky for us thoughts can be managed and changed. This is called mind-management and it is without a doubt the number one reason you are not losing-- and maybe even gaining-- weight.
Let’s take a look at what is happening in your mind that is preventing you from losing weight.
Reason #1: You do not have a compelling reason to lose weight.
Losing weight is hard. If it wasn’t, we would all be thin.
But here's the thing. Listen up. This is important:
You can do hard things.
The trick is that you have to have a compelling enough reason to decide to do it-- a reason that you want more than food. And then commit to the decision to stop eating flour and sugar, no matter what.
No. Matter. What.
That is the hard part.
But remember, you can do hard things.
For me, my compelling reason was I was tired of being an emotional eater. I wanted to be someone who did not feel "obligated" by her body or her desire to eat all the time.
I was tired of being an emotional eater.
I didn’t love carrying around extra weight, but more so I was tired of using up inordinate amounts of mental energy for food and body image management (read: obsession). I wanted to feel free around food, confident that my choices would not lead to weight gain, gastrointestinal discomfort, or mental turmoil.
And freedom with food is exactly what I now have. And I will never go back, no matter what. Compulsory eating is history. I know exactly what my body thrives on, fuel wise, and I just eat that.
And it works.
I feel great and, best of all I have tons of mental energy freed up to focus on what matters to me most-- my career and my family.
What is your compelling reason to lose weight?
For many women it is ending the obsession with food. They are tired of constantly thinking about food: what they ate, how much they ate, what they "should" have eaten, what they "shouldn't" have eaten, how they feel after eating, and, most notably, the regret and shame that accompanies the obsession.
Others are tired of the transactional relationship of eating and exercise. They eat a cookie and then the guilt and shame obligates them to go to a power yoga class when their overworked joints are really calling out for a restorative. Or they force themselves to hit the pavement running when running is a form of torture for their souls. They are compelled to end this tit-for-tat relationship that never seems to produce results anyway.
It is important that you spend some time thinking about what your compelling reason is. Because it has to be more compelling than pasta at your favorite Italian restaurant or margaritas with your girlfriends.
But here's the best part: once you’ve identified and aligned yourself with your compelling reason, and you've learned to manage your mind, you will you find that when it comes to weight loss, willpower is irrelevant. You will gradually lose your desire for sugar and flour (particularly after the first 2-6 weeks of NSNF) and begin to taste what freedom around food feels like.
Trust me, it is well worth the hard work to get there. And you are worth it.
Lia Pinelli is a weight loss coach and educator who helps women put an end to emotional overeating and lose weight, permanently.