We all have numerous beliefs through which we see the world, every day.
Some of these beliefs are so old we were practically born with them.
They came from our our origin: our fetal and childhood circumstances, our parents, our culture.
Beliefs about family, security, money, love, emotions, food, politics.
Other beliefs we’ve collected along the way.
And we think beliefs are true, right?
I mean, that’s kind of what a belief is? ... truths based on evidence?
While beliefs are truths for those who believe them, beliefs are not facts.
Beliefs are just thoughts we think over and over.
And it becomes a belief.
All beliefs start as thoughts.
And all thoughts are optional.
As the saying goes, whether you think you can or you can’t—both are true.
If you think you’ll never be able to lose weight, you won’t.
If you think you will never meet the love of your life, you won’t.
If you think your ship sailed when you were 26, it did.
On the flip side, if you think you will be able to lose weight or meet the love of your life-- and you take action to do so-- you will.
The difference between the two thoughts is that the former is a limiting belief--one that prevents you from moving in the direction you want to go.-- and the latter is expansive, inspiring action that gets you the results you are after.
For example, if you want to have a more money but you think that money is a problem for you, that's a limiting belief.
Or if you want to stop binge drinking on the weekends but you think you’ll be boring without boozing it up with your homegirls, that's a limiting belief.
Limiting beliefs are those that steer you away from your goals and you think they are true.
Those thoughts, all those thoughts, are optional.
You might be saying, “But Lia, I have had the thought that I would be able to lose weight, I took action by starting a diet, and I didn’t lose the weight permanently. WTF?!?!”
The answer there is that you had the inspired thought but limiting beliefs came up along the way that thwarted your results.
Thoughts like “I’ve been good all week, I’m going to splurge tonight and eat/drink what I want.” or “It’s not working-- I’ve only lost 2 lbs in 3 weeks.”
It is these sneaky thoughts that get in the way of your goals.
The sooner you acknowledge those thoughts and treat them, the sooner you’ll get the results you want--and more.
When I learned that each and every thought we have is optional, I felt like I’d just been told the secret to the universe.
What do you mean each and every thought we have is optional?!?!
That meant that I didn’t have to live at the mercy of truths of my own making.
I get to choose what is true, for me.
How empowering is that?!?!
What are your limiting beliefs?
Where is your thinking holding you back from being the person you most deeply want to be? From living the life you crave?
I’ll give you a hint: most people have limiting beliefs around money, relationships, work, and health.
Identifying, analyzing, and eliminating your limiting beliefs is the first step towards creating the life you crave.
It is my hope that you take me up on this one.
Lia Pinelli is a weight loss coach and educator who helps women put an end to emotional overeating and lose weight, permanently.