Hey Mama Boss.
You are high achieving.
You work hard.
You do it all.
Career, family, exercise, news, socialize… you do it all.
You are a badass on so many levels.
And yet, something is missing.
Something is off.
You are anxious.
You can’t relax.
So you go to yoga.
To feel better.
But even there you feel like you aren’t doing enough… that you aren’t advanced enough, strong enough, toned enough,young enough, thin enough…
There is always this feeling that you should be doing something else.
That you made the wrong choice.
That you are doing it wrong.
That you are doing life wrong.
Even though you are doing it all.
A good friend of mine recently had her one year anniversary of quitting her very sensible, reliable career as a pharmacist to follow her heart and become an entrepreneur.
She has two young children.
And she made the leap.
She said to me as we talked during my harried commute to work in Bay Area traffic “Remember, you are superwoman.”
What she was reminding me of was that we women who do it all, we are superwomen.
It is no small feat to be Girl Bosses, run businesses and side-hustles, be present for high-quality time with our bambini, have healthy and thriving marriages (on a good day ;), and maintain exquisite mental and physical health.
Most of us don’t want to work that hard.
At work this week a colleague asked me what my plans for the holiday were and I told her I had three days where my child would go to childcare and I could have time just to myself.
I told her I was super excited for that because I am planning two workshops for the new year at the studio-- one on goal setting for the New Year and one on Clean Eating.
She laughed at me and said “Of course you do! Don’t you want to just relax and watch Real Housewives on the couch?!?!” and while I love me some RHW (Orange County is my fav), I haven’t watched in years.
Not because I’m driven to work from a place of fear or anxiety-- but my work feels like entertainment.
It’s better than Real Housewives.
And when I’m done creating my workshops, I will feel a million times better than I would feel after watching some anti-feminist reality TV. (No hate, RHW fans.)
Superwoman is you and me.
She’s the high achieving working mama who does-it-all, perfectly imperfectly.
It is not the “all” of her neighbor, her colleague, her mother, or her family.
It is the “all” of her own creation. On her terms.
And she loves how doing-it-all feels.
It’s not resentful, frenetic, or pressured.
It’s determination, satisfaction, and purpose.
Because when the doing-it-all is of her own making and when she likes the reasons for choosing what she does-- not from a sense of obligation but from a sense of deep rooted satisfaction-- she feels amazing and gets the results she is after.
This post is dedicated to my good friend and coach genius, Jessica Miller. You can check her out at jessicamillerbny.com.
Lia Pinelli is a weight loss coach and educator who helps women put an end to emotional overeating and lose weight, permanently.