I used to be “busy” all the time.
As a more-than-full time working professional, entrepreneur, and mom I get up at 4:30 am everyday and Hustle with a capital H..
I’m busy, busy, busy.
People would ask me how I was doing and I’d say “Busy!”
Weekends are booked months in advance so friends often preface invitations with “I know your busy…”
But the truth is I’m not busy.
I’ve just made plans for my time already.
And there’s a difference.
According to Merriam-Webster busy means you “have a great deal to do” or “keep occupied”.
But I don’t have a great deal to do, and I’m definitely not “keeping occupied”.
I plan my time according to what I want to be doing, rooted in my values and what matters most, and that includes my personal and family time.
That’s not busy, that’s living intentionally.
Living intentionally means creating a live you love, on purpose.
Telling yourself you’re busy versus living intentionally has a direct impact on your psyche.
Busy fosters overwhelm and tedium.
Living intentionally fosters thoughtfulness and satisfaction.
I can hear some of you protesting already.
“Are you kidding?!?! Have you seen my life? Career, kids, dentist appointments, soccer practice, cooking, clearning, board meetings, bill paying, family visiting, arguing with my spouse-- I’m not choosing this-- I’m f*#$ing BUSY!!”
I get it.
But when we accept that we are choosing each activity we become empowered to un-choose it.
For example, I choose to eat at home almost every weeknight.
Choosing to eat at home brings with it other tasks like set up and clean up.
This could make my evenings “busy” but really they are just planned out already.
Because I choose to cook at home for my family it means we are not playing games, working on the computer, or watching movies on weeknights-- instead we are cooking together.
Of course, if I wanted to play games or work on my computer I could choose to not cook and instead eat take out or fast food.
But that choice would result in spending more money than I’m willing or eating foods that don’t fuel me well-- neither of which I value.
Either way, it’s a choice.
And I get to make that choice.
I have the power to make all of my choices, according to my values.
That is a perk of being a grown-up. ;)
So instead of saying your busy, how about saying that you’ve made plans?
Because you have.
How to stop being busy to create a life you love
You will be amazed not how much time this can free up, but also how much this simple analysis and alignment activity can elevate the quality of your life.
Imagine what your days will look like when every choice you make is aligned with your top five priorities!
So the next time you find yourself talking about how busy you are, switch it up and talk instead about the plans you’ve made for your one, precious life.
Stay tuned for part two next week: Too Busy to Lose Weight!
Lia Pinelli is a weight loss coach and educator who helps women put an end to emotional overeating and lose weight, permanently.