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12/21/2019

Restore Balance in Your Body in 2020

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Prior to 2018 I yearned for balance in my life constantly. 

I yearned to be at peace with food and my body because I knew the incessant battle in my head was usurping inordinate amounts of my mental space and energy that I could be spending on the things that really mattered to me, like being present with my family and advancing in my career.

The cycle went like this:
  1. Pants tight
  2. Mental spin out: This has to end! What am I doing wrong?? I eat so healthy (mostly)... I eat too much-- I always have. I have such a big appetite-- I have to work on portion control. I don't want to give up bread. Low carb is stupid. I just need to eat less... but it's so hard... I hate this.... I should just go Paelo, that works for people...
  3. Spend hours researching trendy diet
  4. Go directly to bookstore to spend $$ on books on trendy diet because I’m anxious to start IMMEDIATELY
  5. Throw away foods in my kitchen that aren't aligned with trendy diet (more $$)
  6. Go to the store with my trendy diet shopping list and spend tons more $$ on fancy flours and new "super foods" 
  7. Implement diet (insert eye-roll from my husband as he says "This again??")
  8. Eat a bunch of food I don't really like
  9. Stick with it for a couple of weeks, maybe a month
  10. Log my progress daily
  11. Research questions and obstacles I'm encountering
  12. Join online trendy diet support groups 
  13. "Cheat" a bunch
  14. Beat the shit out of myself for cheating
  15. Feel motivated every morning 
  16. Feel like shit every evening
  17. Start to lose steam
  18. Beat myself up for losing steam
  19. Decide this isn't the diet for me: It's not working, I can't do this, This is ridiculous-- who eats like this?? I think there's a better diet... let me do some more research...
  20. Return to #3

This was my cycle. Over and over and over.

So what happened in 2018 that changed everything?

2018:

The year my struggle with food and weight ended-- permanently.

The year my over-hunger ended.

The year my over-desire for food ended.

The year the cycle of eat-shame-eat-shame-eat-shame ended.

The year all diets ended.

The year my mind-drama about food ended.

The year my mind-drama about my body ended.

2018 was the commencement of a completely new way of living.

It was the year I learned to restore the balance in my body with food and exquisite self-care.

The year I learned to restore the balance in my life because I was no longer spending any time spinning out about food-- instead I was engaged with my family, friends, career, and most importantly-- myself. 

In 2018 I lost 30 pounds without dieting I was able to replace all of my self-loathing with self-love which is the most priceless gift anyone could give themselves. 

2020 isn't just the turning of another year, it's the turning of another decade.

The results you have in your life today were created by the decisions you made yesterday.

The results you have on December 31st, 2020 will be created by every decision you make starting today.

If you are still struggling with overeating and over-desire, why not make 2020 the year that that all ends? 

For me it was the year 2018.

For you, it’s 2020.

Let’s do this. 

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12/15/2019

How to Stress Less this Holiday Season

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Recently a man furiously flung his car door open to block my car from moving as I tried to maneuver past his car in a Costco parking lot. 

He stormed angrily towards my car as I hastened to lock the doors, and proceeded to bang violently on my car window yelling “Roll your window down!! Roll your window down!!” 

My wide-eyed 5 year old sat in the back seat, confused, and scared.

This man's emotions were high.

He was angry and agitated.

Ready to pick a fight with a woman and her small child.

Of course my fiery Italian self yelled back in mama-bear tones.

He finally got back in his car and drove off.

Heightened emotional states like these are commonplace this time of year.

I’m not immune, and likely neither are you.

People are stressed.

Stressed about overspending.

Stressed about overeating and overdrinking.

Stressed about family relationships and interactions.

But wait, isn’t the holiday season supposed to be  the “most wonderful time of the year”?

Stress is, by definition, a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.

Do the holidays qualify as “adverse or very demanding circumstances”?? 

No, they don’t… unless your thinking that you have to spend a bunch of money, eat a bunch of food, drink a bunch of booze, entertain people you really don’t like, and  shop till you drop (literally) when you really just want to be cozy by the fire in your jammies with a cup of tea and a good book. 

This kind of stress is self-created.

If you’re anything like most people, you respond to stress by overeating and overdrinking-- not to mention overspending and overcommitting. 

In short, you create this stress by thinking you have to do all of these things in order to have the experience you want over the holidays, but you end up with a result you don’t want: tight pants, maxed out credit cards, and empty bank accounts. 

The solution to self-created stress is to stop creating it. 

Here’s how:
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First, you have to change the way you are thinking about how you create the experience you want.

For example, if you are telling yourself that you “have to” buy all this stuff, eat all this stuff, bake all this stuff, do all this stuff, etc. then you’ll feel obligated, overwhelmed, overcommitted, overspent, and overweight.

I’m guessing those are not the feelings you are trying to create this holiday season.

Here are two questions to ask yourself in order to stress less.

  1. What is the feeling I want to have this holiday season? Is it connection? Restoration? Levity? Celebratory? Love? 
  2. What is the feeling you want to have in January?Renewed? Grounded? Inspired? Guilt-free?

After you’ve found the feelings you are after, use that information to answer the following questions.

  1. What is the experience I need to curate for myself in order to generate those feelings? Take the time to write this down and be thoughtful here. 
  2. Make a list of 10 things you can do to generate that feeling. Commit to doing them.
  3. Make a list of 10 things that will create stress for you. Commit to NOT doing them.
  4. Pay special attention to your thinking-- I choose to is ALWAYS more accurate than I have to.​ ​
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The essential thing to remember is that the holidays can be about whatever you want them to be: overeating, overdrinking, overspending, overstressing... 

Or, they can be about connection, reflection, intention, generosity, gratitude, and restoration.

You don’t have to do anything.

You get to choose.

Set your intention for the holiday and then allow it to be exactly what you want it to be, now, and in January.

XOXO.

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